tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34672130.post4228278329596910631..comments2023-04-16T04:41:20.214-07:00Comments on I0NAFI0NA: The gut instinctFI0NAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17044942381358172235noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34672130.post-10289320475401287672010-09-25T13:58:25.666-07:002010-09-25T13:58:25.666-07:00Trouble is I really can't tell. I think being ...Trouble is I really can't tell. I think being able to assume he is a normal individual and not pathologize his every move is a good thing. Probably he has been burnt before and is just trying to establish some form of baseline friendship. And it is very good because although I may be disappointed if it fizzles I won't be as dissapointef as I would be had we gone further.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34672130.post-21577076568398228762010-09-25T08:14:54.457-07:002010-09-25T08:14:54.457-07:00Hey Fiona,
I would just say trust your instincts....Hey Fiona,<br /><br />I would just say trust your instincts. If he seems like a cold fish to <b>you,</b> and not when putting it through a "what other people would think" filter, that's important.<br /><br />Also, some of what you say about him not holding your hand, etc., reminds me of when I started dating my husband. It took him a month to make a move. But when he did, it was zero to 60-- we kissed and had sex the same night, first time's all. What I found out later is that he had just been with a prostitute-- so he used his sickness to even be able to make a move on me. Gross. And I wasn't comfortable with how far we went-- but brushed it off.<br /><br />The Mom thing-- my husband was a total Momma's boy. (he's Irish.) The dysfunction I saw between him and his Mom explains so much of what went wrong in his childhood, to me. <br /><br />Anyway, those are just my husband's issues-- I'm not saying those must be your new dating situation. But you know-- honor yourself and you can't go wrong.Bernadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05551640226103805937noreply@blogger.com